i wont tell you what's the event that drives to this post.but here's what i learn so far.
we tend to underestimate(if not forgetting) the power of positive thinking. when things go bad we take actions,saying stuff as if every other facts doesn't exist.it seems like its always been bad and never did any good to us.we make it a reason to hurt others.feels like the only solution is to scream.shout,shuts off, or walk away.and i think i did that too many times.
im not a positive person my self but for the past few months im trying to be more positive. im trying to look behind the mess.im tying to look for more than what it seems.somebody once said to me:
"you're mad and it seems like shit.take time and look for the good stuff.im pretty sure you're have a long list of bad stuffs.but think about this,is that list really how it is or just one side of the story?you dont wanna make wrong decision based on the wrong judgement from half the facts..remember the good stuff.bad things are evrywhere but good stuff is what keeping you from making decision you'll regret."
at first,i didn't agree with this saying.what if the good stuff keeps you trapped in the situation you shoud've just get out from.what if the good stuff is an ancient fact that has changed.but then i realize its not the point. seeing the good stuff is to make sure whatever decisions,words,actions you take is the right one.looking for good stuff is for you to see the whole problem.because a judgement ths is based on what you;re only half understar is never good.
so i try to to look for the positives.it's not easy.in fact,its really really hard.but i dont want to make a wrong decision for something important.and my father once said its whats the difference between a little boy and a man.you make decision based on whats fact. i once said to someone i hate 'when you make desicions,think about what youll lose instead of what youll get'. now i know more than ever that it's true.
so far i think the effect is good.i cant say i've done it right but im trying and it gives me calm.seing things entirely(and posiviely) makes me think clearer.hopefully i can solve the problem and eventually this kind of thinking can make me a better person.
wish me luck!
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